By Deb23
2/7/2013 11:01:43 AM
I am new here. I am just coming to realize that I am codependent. I am willing to change but have to figure out what all needs changing and I worry about if I will be able to do it. I have prayed to find why I'm always so angry and this really is an answer to a prayer. I write this not to get pity (or I don't think I am) but I write this to help me start to heal not suddenly be healed but to at least start something. I try and control everything and get mad when I can't and it's killing me.
Thank you


It's funny    
"As I read your post I was filled with compassion. I just loved you. It made me laugh. I fancied in my mind your need for control as wonderfully endearing. Like observing a child in a moment of total unmanageability yet absorbed in the frustrated effort to control and manifest power that doesn't exist. And then a thought hit me - "why is it so easy for you to see and love something in others that you are without compassion or forgiveness for in yourself..?" I was somewhat stunned at the thought. I didn't realize how harsh I am with my own problems with control. It's like I even try to control control and when I fail to control that I am so...horribly vicious with myself. Thank you. I learned something about me today. I doubt it's of any help to you but thank you non the less. Well wishes."
posted at 15:42:40 on February 7, 2013 by they_speak
Reaching out    
"It's great to see you here - The first step to overcoming any struggle is to reach out to the people around you for help. You will need to swallow your pride and accept that some people will know your weaknesses, but you will be surprised at the overwhelmingly positive response from those around you.
Everyone starts off with doubt on whether or not they can do it - I was extremely skeptical. And I guess what it comes down to is... we can't do it. Not on our own. It's an extremely humbling journey that eventually leads us to a greater relationship with God. I with you luck on your journey!"
posted at 13:50:50 on February 8, 2013 by recovery.gdo
posted at 14:55:13 on February 8, 2013 by g1rlie

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"Lucifer will do all in his power to keep you captive. You are familiar with his strategy. He whispers: “No one will ever know.” “Just one more time.” “You can’t change; you have tried before and failed.” “It’s too late; you’ve gone too far.” Don’t let him discourage you. When you take the path that climbs, that harder path of the Savior, there are rewards along the way. When you do something right, when you resist temptation, when you meet a goal, you will feel very good about it. It is a very different kind of feeling than you have when you violate commandments—an altogether different feeling. It brings a measure of peace and comfort and provides encouragement to press on. "

— Richard G. Scott

General Conference May 1990